"Sometimes people do things that hurt and it's not because they mean to. They just do. It doesn't necessarily have anything to do with you, but you end up hurt because of it."
Randy K. Milholland, Something Positive Comic, 08-23-05
This goes along with the "Five Life Lessons" I posted earlier this year (see #1).
I do think that we should be aware of how our actions will effect others...but I also believe that sometimes hurt feelings are unavoidable. My motto is: "Absit reverentia vero" (The truth shouldn't be silenced to spare someone.), and I think this fits perfectly with what Milholland wrote.
Referencing my last blog (and sticking with the relationship topic)... I realized I've been angry with my husband because I'm going to miss him while he's away. While I know these feelings are normal, it makes me sad because I'd rather be angry than sad. Is that a productive way to be? No. So, I've been trying not to be angry over stupid things that would normally not bother me. Why waste time being angry? Instead, I'm going to try and enjoy every minute we have together. Now I just need to figure out what all I'd like for us to do before he leaves.
If you've gone through a deployment (or separation) before, what's something you wish you would have done?